TINA + NORM
An elaborate joke
Tina Lam and Norman Collier met through mutual friends at a barbeque, before Norm had sprouted a full beard yet. They remained on the fringes of each other's friends group for a few years, eventually becoming friends themselves. An indirect rejection over sushi-go-round, a Facebook "dating" prank on April Fools' Day, and a few dropped calls later, they started dating.
Despite having the surprise foiled by an ill-timed text message from Tina's brother, Norm proposed to Tina in front of 30 friends in a Sichuan restaurant. After cursing him out, Tina answered his proposal with "Yeah, I guess."
Save the Date
July 15, 2017
We will be having an outdoor ceremony at the Queens Botanical Garden.
Afterwards, please enjoy the rest of the Garden, we are also offering tickets to the Queens Museum.
Join us for drinks, photos, then a sit-down 12-course dinner
served family-style in the heart of Flushing's Main Street.
Dancing, desserts, and tea will be had!
Tag all your photos & videos on social media with #housetorm
While taking your shots, please be mindful of our photographers as they capture every special moment.
2:00 - 3:00 PM
Wedding Garden at the Queens Botanical Garden
43-50 Main Street
Flushing, NY 11355
Parking and admission is complimentary, just mention our wedding with the ticket attendants. Please note that there will be limited seating and be mindful of your heels on grass.
Please make sure to adequately protect yourself against the sun,
we will be providing parasols, fans, & water for your comfort.
In addition to enjoying the rest of the Garden and/or the park,
we are also offering tickets to the Queens Museum,
located less than 10 minutes by car, please note
that parking is extremely limited.
3:00 - 6:00 PM
New York City Building
Flushing Meadows Corona Park,
Queens, NY 11368
For additional entertainment, the Queens Zoo &
Hall of Science is also located in Flushing Meadows.
6:00 – 11:00 PM
Royal Queen Restaurant
(formerly called Grand Restaurant)
Top Floor at New World Mall
136-20 Roosevelt Avenue
Flushing, NY 11354
Please enjoy cocktail hour & join us for
family photos before dinner begins.
Flushing is easily accessible by car and mass transit.
FROM NORTH: Take CT-8 until you hit I-95 S, then navigate to I-678 S.
FROM SOUTH: Take I-95 N to George Washington Bridge,
merge into I-87 S towards Queens then to I-278 W.
MASS TRANSIT: Take the LIRR from Penn Station or take the 7
to Flushing - Main Street.
We have reserved a block of rooms at the Sheraton LaGuardia East Hotel. Please mention our names while booking your room to secure the discount. There is parking available at the hotel. The reception restaurant is located a block away. There is complimentary shuttle service between the hotel and
LaGuardia Airport, please check with the front desk for details.
SHERATON LAGUARDIA EAST
135-20 39th Avenue
Flushing, NY 11354
Should the block be filled before you make accommodations,
please contact either of us for recommendations of hotels in the area.
The cutoff date is 6/14.
There is free public parking around the hotel that is first come, first serve. Additionally, there are garages located in the hotel and next to the hotel, as well as close to the reception hall.
Parking is complimentary at both the Queens Botanical Gardens, and free at Queens Museum, and Queens Zoo. There is a parking fee for the Hall of Science.
The Tea Ceremony
The central part of a traditional wedding is the tea ceremony, where the bride will wear the kwa qun and, along with the groom, pay their respects to the elders in both their families. Each member of their family’s elders will be called, starting with the parents, then to aunts, uncles, and finally, older married siblings. The elders are instructed to sit in red chairs, while tea is poured into cups on a plate. Bride and groom then offer the poured tea to the elders, who will make a gesture of drinking, before throwing a red envelope (called a hong bao) unto the plate, containing a couple dollars as a courtesy to the tea pourer and the house. The honored elders then present the couple with their gifts, a hong bao containing money, and jewelry for both. The jewelry gifts is one way to pass on family heirlooms, as well as to welcome the bride and groom to each other’s families. Traditional Chinese wedding jewelry is often gold, but can also contain pearls (representing the moon and the bride) and jade (representing protection and virtue). Each piece of jewelry is adorned on the bride and groom by their attendants cumulatively, so by tea ceremony’s end, the couple is weighed down by all of their gifts.
Part of a modern celebration of a wedding in Chinese culture involves the bride changing her wardrobe twice, meant to elevate the celebration. The first dress is a white gown, representing Western traditions. During the tea ceremony, the kwa qun is donned, which is a red 2-piece dress embroidered with gold thread. The color red is considered lucky. The last dress is a song kee dress, an evening dress to toast and send off guests at the end of the evening.
a 12-course feast
The most important part of hosting a wedding is sharing abundant and elaborate foods and drink with the guests, as part of having a harmonious occasion. Each dish represents not only the culinary pillars of Chinese cuisine, but also a wish of abundance, luck, wealth, and more for the couple. For example, fish is served because it sounds like "plentiful" in Chinese, while noodles are served to represent a long life and long marriage.
All courses are served family-style, so pace yourself!
Vegetarian dishes are available, please RSVP accordingly.
Hometown: Morristown, NJ (born in Hudson, NY)
What She Does: Graphic designer for a collectible company, has run freelance business for 10 years. Has too many creative hobbies, such as costuming, embroidery, illustration. She can’t cook. Loves cats too much, has 2 named Pierogi and Samosa.
Favorite Food: Soup Dumplings (xiao long bao)
Favorite Video Game: Shadow of the Colossus
Norman Bruce Collier, JR.
Hometown: Canton, CT
What He Does: Former Carpenter turned PSE&G Meter Reader after moving to New Jersey. Video Game maven and glutton for video game punishment. Learned to cook and able to cook, unlike Tina. Lover of bunnies and lazy Sundays at home.
Favorite Food: Korean Tofu Soup (Soondubu Jjigae)
Favorite Video Game: Dark Souls (Praise the Sun!)
We are honored to have you at our wedding, your presence is gift enough! If you would like to help us fill out our future home or help us share our Honeymoon and many future experiences together, please find the registries below.
For the those family members of the Collier family that wish to do Tina’s family the honor of participating in the tea ceremony during the reception, please place your gift in a special red envelope called a hongbao, along with another hongbao holding a couple dollars as courtesy to the staff. Please also bring a piece of gold jewelry for both bride and groom to graciously accept and wear for the duration of the ceremony.
Both hongbao and jewelry can be purchased on Main Street in Flushing, or on Canal Street in Manhattan's Chinatown. We will have also have hongbao available at the reception table where you can pick up your table cards and sign our guestbook tapestry.
For more information & examples, please check out the Tea Ceremony section in Traditions.