TINA + NORM
An elaborate joke
Tina Lam and Norman Collier met through mutual friends at a barbeque, before Norm had sprouted a full beard yet. They remained on the fringes of each other's friends group for a few years, eventually becoming friends themselves. An indirect rejection over sushi-go-round, a Facebook "dating" prank on April Fools' Day, and a few dropped calls later, they started dating.
Despite having the surprise foiled by an ill-timed text message from Tina's brother, Norm proposed to Tina in front of 30 friends in a Sichuan restaurant. After cursing him out, Tina answered his proposal with "Yeah, I guess."
Save the Date
July 15, 2017
The Tea Ceremony
The central part of a traditional wedding is the tea ceremony, where the bride will wear the kwa qun and, along with the groom, pay their respects to the elders in both their families. Each member of their family’s elders will be called, starting with the parents, then to aunts, uncles, and finally, older married siblings. The elders are instructed to sit in red chairs, while tea is poured into cups on a plate. Bride and groom then offer the poured tea to the elders, who will make a gesture of drinking, before throwing a red envelope (called a hong bao) unto the plate, containing a couple dollars as a courtesy to the tea pourer and the house. The honored elders then present the couple with their gifts, a hong bao containing money, and jewelry for both. The jewelry gifts is one way to pass on family heirlooms, as well as to welcome the bride and groom to each other’s families. Traditional Chinese wedding jewelry is often gold, but can also contain pearls (representing the moon and the bride) and jade (representing protection and virtue). Each piece of jewelry is adorned on the bride and groom by their attendants cumulatively, so by tea ceremony’s end, the couple is weighed down by all of their gifts.
Part of a modern celebration of a wedding in Chinese culture involves the bride changing her wardrobe twice, meant to elevate the celebration. The first dress is a white gown, representing Western traditions. During the tea ceremony, the kwa qun is donned, which is a red 2-piece dress embroidered with gold thread. The color red is considered lucky. The last dress is a song kee dress, an evening dress to toast and send off guests at the end of the evening.
a 12-course feast
The most important part of hosting a wedding is sharing abundant and elaborate foods and drink with the guests, as part of having a harmonious occasion. Each dish represents not only the culinary pillars of Chinese cuisine, but also a wish of abundance, luck, wealth, and more for the couple. For example, fish is served because it sounds like "plentiful" in Chinese, while noodles are served to represent a long life and long marriage.
All courses are served family-style, so pace yourself!
Vegetarian dishes are available, please RSVP accordingly.
Hometown: Morristown, NJ (born in Hudson, NY)
What She Does: Graphic designer for a collectible company, has run freelance business for 10 years. Has too many creative hobbies, such as costuming, embroidery, illustration. She can’t cook. Loves cats too much, has 2 named Pierogi and Samosa.
Favorite Food: Soup Dumplings (xiao long bao)
Favorite Video Game: Shadow of the Colossus
Norman Bruce Collier, JR.
Hometown: Canton, CT
What He Does: Former Carpenter turned PSE&G Meter Reader after moving to New Jersey. Video Game maven and glutton for video game punishment. Learned to cook and able to cook, unlike Tina. Lover of bunnies and lazy Sundays at home.
Favorite Food: Korean Tofu Soup (Soondubu Jjigae)
Favorite Video Game: Dark Souls (Praise the Sun!)
Thanks to Tiffany Chang for taking these wonderful photos!
Thanks to Eron Rauch for taking these black & white behind-the-scenes photos!
OFFICIAL WEDDING Photos
Thanks to Adrienne Longo and her Team for these perfect shots!
Taken on our phones to share with everyone our once-in-a-lifetime trip!